Have you ever wondered what happened to the good old days?
Let’s talk about those sexless relationships….. Do you know how to handle them? We all go through our dry patches. If someone tells you they have been in a relationship for a few years and they are still “kicking it” like it is day one, well they are probably misinforming you. Okay let’s call a spade ~ a spade, they are lying to you.
Just like men have envy of the little friend below, we have relationship envy. We all look at other couples and think they have something that we are lacking in our relationship. But before you start fantasizing about your girlfriend’s sheets, think about it, the grass is not always greener on the other side. She might be happy because she has a toy shack in the closet that requires a continuous supply of double A, C, and D batteries. We will dog out our spouses about a lot of stuff, but we rarely tell others when they stop curling our toes and making us cry “Oh Big Daddy” in the middle night.
So let’s discuss spark!
Are you feeling like there is no spark between you and your partner anymore? Why do you think that is? Has someone told you that or did you decide that you are not as pretty, sexy, fun, or have as much energy as you did when you were younger?
If someone told you that, all I can say is…… Don’t listen to him. It is not all your fault. We know that men have egos when it comes to their little friend and like to deflect the blame onto us. Don’t buy it! That is one guilt trip that you can leave on the clearance rack.
Self-esteem and keeping it hot in the bedroom go hand and hand. So, if you are feeling low and not sexy then you are not going to feel like romping it up with your man.
But on the other hand if you have been blocking the one eye man, then you need to check yourself as well. You cannot block and complain.
A Beautiful Body is a state of mind!
Most of us were lucky to be a size 0, 3, 5, 6, 8, or 10 in our life time. If you are past your twenties, thirties or forties, chances are you are not as thin as you use to be. That is fine!
You are not expected to be. I have always believed that sexiness is a state of mind even when I was sporting a size 6. I have seen people who were a size 24 and found their sexiness intimidating. For women, it is all about how you care for yourself. It is about your attitude. If you feel good about yourself everyone else will feel the same about you. Have you ever noticed that people treat you how you perceive yourself? Victims are always victims. Mortars are always mortars. Your state of sexiness is no different. If you have started wearing your great, great grandma night gowns to bed and you have a “Mister, just roll on top of me and do your business” attitude. That is what you are going to get out of your relationship.
When you look in the mirror and you don’t see a sexy attractive woman, do you ask yourself why?
Clothing, make-up, chipped nails, or not making time for yourself could be part of it. I believe that you can increase your sexual attraction in a relationship by putting a little effort into yourself. I don’t think it is about the tummy that you have been fooling yourself you are going to reduce for the last fifteen years; it is all a state of mind. If you feel sexy someone will find you sexy.
The truth is increasing the level of intimacy in your relationship takes work from all parties involved. And, I hate to tell you friend but sexless relationships and marriages are UNHEALTHY. We are sexual beings and we are meant to be out there and do our thing. I am not advocating cheating. I am advocating trying to make it work at home.
So this weekend, as you crawl in your sexless bed, it is time to turn the tables and get some sheets wrinkled a little bit. You are going to strip the bed on Saturday morning anyway so why not do it with a smile.
So will you wrinkle some sheets this weekend?
Remember! You are a sexy gal. You don’t have to be a size 6 to get things moving at home. You just need to find your inner sexiness and have fun.