Every parent has a different discipline style. Who is to say which one is wrong or which one is right? I don’t judge parents who spank because it is not my child and I don’t feel that I have that right. As you roll your eyes, I am not talking about beating. That is abuse and a topic I am not qualified to discuss.
Growing up as a child, spankings, or (as they would say in the south) whippings, were the norm in most households that I knew. I have to say that I probably got a few beating as well over the years. So, I am a little sensitive to that subject.
Believe it or not, you could even get a paddling at school. I remember, one fateful day, I got a paddling that left a scar. I think it was more race-related than a discipline. But, that’s a story for another time and day.
Before I had a child, I was clear that spankings were something that could not, would not be a part of my household. I thought I would be super mom. I would be able to reason with my husband, the dog, the cat, the toddler, and most strays that crossed my path. I knew I could do it because I would be
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Let’s fast forward to present day. I am not supermom and there are days when I wish I could trade my entire family in for a coffee and a muffin.
Once you realize that you are not super mom and the little people running around your house are not the angels that you tell everyone they are, how do you discipline?
In my household, I am still not really a spanker. I don’t see that it serves much purpose except to raise my blood pressure and cause tears. We are still faced with the issue, whether it is picking up toys, talking back, or just plain not listening.
I have tried spanking on several occasions but a swat on the buttocks does not really work in my household. It is just a temporary fix for a larger problem.
I have tried a lot of things in my house: Toys away for a week, cancelled play dates, no ballet lesson, no friends over, no desserts just to name a few. NONE of them worked!
But, just like my child, I am no quitter. I have continued to try various strategies. At last, I have found the two sure things that will get my child in line. Some of you might think this is cruel and others will think it is a waste of money and resources.
What does work in my household is recycling. Yes, folks! I recycle. I have a chart on my refrigerator. I give the number of warning per age year. In our case, it is six. At the end of the warnings, I get rid of one toy in the house until the task is complete. And I don’t get rid of a toy that has been sitting in the corner for months; I get rid of one of the toys in the pile that I have been asking my child repeatedly to tidy. And once again, no, it is not a little Barbie shoe; it is one of the bigger toys.
So far, we have recycled a Barbie camper, Corvette, cuddly toys, and a Nintendo dsl. And, no, I do not replace them. While I am sure some of you are thinking this is extreme, I have noticed that my house is better run since I have started to recycle. It is not nearly as cluttered.
We’d love to hear from you. What is your method of discipline? What works in your household?