When I was a little girl, each morning I awoke thinking: “I cannot wait until I get to my 20′s for that American dream”. Marriage, children, big house, and possibly a really beautiful, big dog in the back of my SUV.”
Well, I did the marriage thing in my 20′s, but didn’t get around to the children thing until I was in my late 30′s.
I am a girl who has always prided myself on being beautiful and staying somewhat fit (as long as it did not interfere with my chardonnay routine). But now that I have a child, everything seems a little foreign to me. My body seems to be a bit older and I am doing things that only my grandmother was brave enough to tell me about. The time I used to spend on health and beauty seems to have disappeared. Exercise and beauty routines are a distant memory.
Take this weekend for example when I ventured into London: I was in an expensive store. Suddenly I took a look at myself and thought: “This makes no sense. You should not be this floppy!”
As we get older, I think that we spend a lot less time thinking of ourselves as sexy or beautiful. Instead, we start to see ourselves as the “mom”, “wife”,”business executive” or combinations of these roles.
I think that all of us who purchase the “floppy” clothes and have makeup in our bags since from before our children were born need to take a moment to appreciate ourselves and change that. I once read an article that stated that the way you look has a direct impact on the way you feel about yourself.
I have noticed that, since I started to be a “floppy” person, I feel more self-conscious. I have started to question if I am pretty enough, good enough, smart enough, a good mother, a good friend, and all the nasty feelings that come with low self-esteem. Who would have thought that my Lancome makeup, Gucci perfume, and Steve Madden heels have that much impact on how I feel about myself? It is not a self-esteem issue, it is a consciousness about how I have let myself go and put myself in second place to everything else in my life from relationships to child rearing.
Growing up in the south, we are told that clothes do not make the person and I have to say that I agree. BUT, I will add that while a nice sundress in the summer, cute sandals, a nice weave (haircut/hairdo), and putting some makeup on might not define who you are, these things can certainly affect how you take charge of your stride and command to be noticed.
So ladies, I think that we owe ourselves a little something this spring. If you don’t like the number on the scale, commit to walking, swimming or whatever you enjoy. I know that I could lose 20 to 30 pounds and look fab, but I am only going to start my journey with five pounds and to that 5 pounds I am going to add a shower a day. (Who’s with me? I’m sure many of you miss a day occasionally when you have a deadline or a baby at home!) I am going to apply make up and I will also commit to a beautiful hair do each day. Treat yourself once in awhile. You know you are beautiful on the inside. Let’s do it up on the outside every now and again as well.
Anyone with me on this journey? What can you commit to yourself?