Have you ever asked yourself the question:

What is life really about?

As you go through your crazy life, have you ever asked yourself:

What is my purpose in life?  Why am I here?

If you were to start to ask those questions, you might have to examine the person within!  Would that be hard for you to do?  Could you look at yourself honestly and evaluate the positive, your shortcomings and—EVEN worse—the negative effect that you have on your life and the lives of others?

Are you a drinker?

Could you look at yourself and say: I have this gut on me because I live to drink?  I cannot stop. I need alcohol to get through my miserable life. I don’t particularly like the taste or the morning after. But for a brief time, it numbs all the bad. 

Are you a smoker? 

Could you look at yourself and say: My teeth are yellow and I have this cough because I am harming my body with cigarette smoke? I am a poor role model for my children. I smoke in the house and the car so I am exposing them to second hand smoke, too!

Are you in debt?

Could you look in the mirror and say: I am in debt because I overspend?  We have a good income but I spend the money that we earn as fast as it comes in the door.  My house is overcrowded with the things I buy that we don’t even need. 

Are you a liar?

Could you look in the mirror and say: I am a liar. I lie to everyone from the neighbor to my relatives? I am harming myself because I cannot remember the lies that I have told so I isolate myself.  I am harming my friends and relatives because they don’t truly trust me or know who I am.

Are you an addict?

Do you have a negative effect on your work, family, children, spouse, or whoever because of your gambling addiction or because you are addicted to the Internet, obsessed with stimulating graphic material, or anything that is not healthy for the family?  Could you admit it and ask for help?

Do you buy your friends?

Could you admit that your friends are for hire?  They do nothing for you and have little to do with you if you are not cooking for them, buying for them, lying for them, stealing from your family budget to wine and dine them?  They are never there when you need them. You hate them most of the time but you need someone to make you feel good.

In life, we all have things that we need to work on.  When I was younger, a guy told me that I have fire between my thighs. We were intimate so I thought:  WOW!  I am an awesome lover!

Last summer, when I was in the states sitting in my hotel room, I got a Facebook request from this person. I accepted and we chatted a few times on the Internet.  We exchanged numbers.   We caught up on the last twenty plus years.   And then he said it again.  “Wow, it is good to talk to you.  I miss hanging out with you.  I always loved the fire between your thighs.”  

Since we had just talked about our families and how wonderful our lives were, I felt a bit annoyed that he was hitting on me. 

I told him, “As much as I would like to sometimes, in those relationship low points, I remain committed to my situation.”   

He started to laugh and explained that what he had said had nothing to do with me as an intimate partner.  You have fire between your thighs was just his way of saying that I had the ability to let go of the past, be honest about it, and move forward. But I could not do that with him.

What a message!  I was sorry that I did not get it at the time and he had to explain it to me.  

The Fire between My Thighs means that someone saw me as a person that did not have to hide from life’s mistakes. I was worthy enough to be honest about my past, forthcoming about my actions, and strong enough to define my future. 

Today, I claim the fire between my thighs!   Are you ready to claim yours?