Everyone has conflict in their lives. We cannot all get along all the time. Most of us can resolve our conflicts quite easily while other people find themselves in situations where their former friend is now an enemy.
So what should you do if your “used to be” friend is now telling your business, talking about you behind your back and spreading vicious rumors?
Initially, you might want to find the inner ghetto in you and get some revenge. Believe it or not, I agree that it is a good thing, but how do you get the best revenge on people who have wronged you?
- Don’t fall victim to the name calling. If someone calls you up and says that “Sue” your former friend is saying things about you, be polite, smile and say I don’t remember things being that way. I am sorry that Sue has such a poor memory about our friendship. I miss our relationship where we could be honest about things and not spread gossip.
- The person calls you to get in the last word. Don’t rise to the occasion and yell and scream. Simply say, “I know you have a lot to get off your chest. I really wish that I could be the person to help you with this but since our friendship has ended on bad terms, I don’t want to say more things that we don’t mean.” Hang up the phone and utilize your caller id. Don’t answer again.
- If your “friend” has spread evil through social media, post a simple message. It could say something like this, “My friend and I recently had a conflict. He/she is hurting because of the demise of our friendship. I want to apologize on her behalf and acknowledge the fact that she has brought everyone into our conflict. If you could kindly refrain from making judgments on either of us, it would be helpful as we both heal from this great loss.”
Personally, I don’t believe that revenge has to be spiteful and harsh. Sometimes the best revenge is taking the high road and letting the other person make a jerk out of him/herself. How do you handle conflicts? Are you revengeful? If you are, would you say you are destructive or peaceful?
If you like to seek revenge, remember that if you are taking the high road and not engaging in the bitter behavior, it is hard for a person to continue their assault.