You’ve Got To Give Me Room

They say each day holds something new.  That could not be more true if you look at life.  Have you looked at your life lately?  What new things does your life hold today?

Do you look at the changes that you are going through each day of your life?  Are the changes mundane or familiar?  New or different?

When I look at my life and the changes that I have been going through, they have been unfamiliar and with a different sense of purpose. They are more focused and less random.  My commitment to a long-term relationship makes me feel like the walls are closing in and the years of love and mutual respect a distant memory.  I say this not because something bad has happened, but because I just woke up one morning and needed room.

As I looked over at the person sitting across from me, I realized that the love I once had for this person has grown weak and the idea of spending the rest of my life with him is a phase in my life that I yearn to come to a halt.

Do you feel that you need some room from your mundane routine?

Are you finding the love and experience that you once cherished is no longer a part of your existence or your wants and desires for the future?

When most of us start a relationship, it is like a fairy tale. You look at the person that is sitting across from you and think he/she is like sweet morning dew.  Your arms and heart are open wide for the experience, but to have a loving and passionate relationship takes work.  While most of us spend a lot of time developing and working on the passion that our relationship needs to sustain, what happens when one person just falls out of love? It does not have to be one person’s fault, but in my case you just realize that you are more than a wife. You are a woman and as a woman this situation has reached a turning point where you need room to either find your way back or move forward.  How do you handle the situation?

Here are some helpful tips if you find yourself with the need for more space:

1. Don’t feel bad for your emotions or feelings
2. Analyze the root of the feelings
3. Discuss the situation with your partner, a friend, or a professional
4. Don’t do anything without thinking it through
5. Seek counseling
6. Don’t start another relationship until you figure out what you are doing with this relationship
7. If you are feeling resentment for a particular situation in the relationship resolve it.

The most important lesson that I have learned in my life is that the relationship that I have with myself determines the relationship that I have with everything else in my life from my child to my career.  If  you are in a situation where you feel that you need room to figure out what is going on in your life, you need to make sure that you give yourself that space.

While I am a big believer that it is healthy for a person to be in a long-term happy situation, I am more of an advocate of a healthy mind.