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April is the Month of the Military Child

April is the month of the military child.  We all commend the parents of a military child and some even look at their lives and think how exciting.  You are right, a military child is fortunate; they live in a lot of wonderful places.  They have adventures in their young lives that most adults will never experience.

 

God Bless The Military Child

God Bless The Military Child

My child is a military child.  She has 33 stamps in her passport.  She is a bit uncommon.  Not because of the number of stamps in her passport but because she has only lived in 2 places during her 7 years.  Two places!  And this summer we are moving back to where she has spent the first four years of her life.  She has a BFF and they will resume their friendship.  She has friends that she looks forward to living near again.  She knows adults that will take care of her.  She had never had to stay with a stranger when her parents were unpacking or live with her grandparents because mom and dad were deployed at the same time.  She has never been told that she cannot have cereal because it was not on the WIC list or we cannot afford this because it was not the 1st or the 15th.   She is the exception to some military families.

Did you know the average military family moves every three years?  If you are an Officer in the military, you could move every two years during the latter part of your career.  Could you imagine moving your child to a school every two to three years?  Or, in some cases, more?

Saluting soldier. Young boy

Did you know that a military member deploys about every 24 months.  Yes, the moms and dads of the military leave their child for an average of seven months every two years.

Did you know that every military person puts in 50 to 70 hours a week and some military families are recipients of Women, Infants and Children (WIC).   Military people don’t make a lot of money but they proudly serve they country every day.  There are times when they cannot pay their bills.  It is not because of expensive cars or credit card debit but because money just does not stretch that far especially if you live in a foreign country.

So, the next time you see a military family and they cannot afford a toy or one that looks a little reserved, offer to help.

Military Child Salutes

Yesterday I went to the commissary (military grocery store), there was a mother paying for her food.  She needed $17.00.  She tried 4 different cards, they all declined.  She was young.  Three children in tow.  She started to cry.  I cannot afford all of this.  I felt so bad.

I said.  “Yes, you can.”   I swiped my card.  As we walked out, she thanked me and asked for my address.  I refused.   I told her to pay it forward if she can afford to in the future.

Can you imagine not being able to afford $17 worth of groceries and your spouse works up to 70 hours a week while you or your spouse dodge bullets for your country, and you love the job you have.

 

MMilitaryChild Month

 

Military Children experience

-       Poor friendships.  They are rarely around long enough in one place to make a quality friends.

-       Financial poverty.  It is expensive to move every three years. (Yes, you do get some compensation but we all know that it takes a little time to recover from a move.)

-       Parents who live for up to a year at a time outside of the home.  Can you imagine being a single parent for a year?

-       Bullying because you are always the new kid.

So the next time you see a military child, say thank you.  Mom and Dad serve but they may serve in the worst way.  Don’t look at them with pity.  They are proud little troopers.  Just accept them and extend a friendship through a play date.  It makes all the difference.  And the next time you see a military mom at the cashier that needs a helping hand, help them.  As a military family, we all have to serve.  And sometimes our service is a lifetime when mom and dads go away and don’t return because they gave their lives to protect our freedom.

American Soldier holds his infant son

To all the Military Children out there, we want to say thank you for your service to our country as well.

Always Believe in Yourself, Cynthia

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6 comments

  1. Cynthia, I meant to comment on this earlier, but time escaped me. This is a great article and big eye-opener to many I’m sure, especially those who have little to no connection with the military. I have several friends whose husbands are in the military and you are absolutely right that the kids do struggle as a result of one parent or both being deployed. It’s a constant struggle for them. I see all that you have to go through when you’re by yourself on a regular basis and I commend you. You’re a great mom so Madyson doesn’t have to deal with many of the struggles that other kids deal with. She may not realize it now, but I’m sure Madyson will be grateful for this when she is older.

    love ya, Heather

    • Heather,

      I am so lucky. We all know the saying about it takes a village to raise a child. And you have been my village. Madyson is lucky because she has been blessed to be one place and to have people in her life like you and your husband. Her bff Amelia and Jonah. I am so grateful for that. You are right Madyson is lucky and I am sure that one day she will realize the importance of the choices that I have made for her life.
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  2. This is a real eye opener! I never realized how much families in the military move and surrounded by change. It is mighty cool he has 33 stamps- I have 2:) Thanks so much for what your hubby and all the military does for us daily. We could never thank you enough in our lifetime! Your little one is just too cute too!

  3. Great post Cynthia! I’ve always felt sorry for the military child because (1) they move alot; and (2) they don’t have full-time parents. When I met my hubs, he had a child. She had moved twice but didn’t see to phase her; maybe cause she was young when he and the ex divorced. But even not having the military parent around all the time and knowing they have been deployed to a danger zone, is very scary for them; as well as the spouse left behind. Hats off to your daughter for those 33 stamps. :) Very cool! BTW, adorable pics!

    • Hi Bren,

      Thank you so much. She loves getting her stamps. As you can tell, she loves to take pictures. It does seem like a lot of military kids are not affected by the move but we have learned otherwise. There are some great things about military children. They learn to adapt to the situations. Your step daugther is lucky that her parent made sure that she was protected with the moves or that she was too young to be affected. Right now there is a lot of worry about this move not because of where we are going because we know she will have her old playmates but the school experience will be different because she is going into 3rd grade a year earlier than most of her peers and at a school that her BFF will probably not attend.
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